Men are built to pursue

As frustrating as it is sometimes to pursue women, occasionally I’m reminded of the fact that we as men actually prefer it this way.

I went to a holiday party and one particular girl took a real liking to me. I mean she was following me around, asking people to take pictures of us with her digital camera. Other people thought we were a couple. It was an immediate turn-off.

This has probably happened to most of you at some time or another – a girl you would have liked in other situations likes you first and likes you too much.

She was cute enough. If she were less aggressive, I would have wanted to go up and talk to her. But her super aggressiveness killed any attraction I had to her. I was thinking “you hardly know me, how can you like me so much?” Isn’t that what girls say when guys like them too much too soon? Weird to have the tables turned. I don’t like it one bit.

I’ll try to remember this scenario when I’m pursuing a woman and I’m working so hard it’s driving me crazy. I wouldn’t have it any other way.

 

Drinking alcohol in social settings

A few years ago, I thought that I needed to drink to be social. I mean, I was good socially when I was sober but it seemed like it was easier, the conversations flowed better when I had drinks in me. Not too many drinks, just a few to loosen up.

With a few drinks in me, the conversation just flowed and I was able to be funny and interesting. When I didn’t drink, it just seemed like a lot of work to be interesting. Funny thing is that the next day I could never remember what I said.

Well, one day I tried an experiment. I tried to not drink at all. It was tough. I had to work really hard to be a good conversationalist. But I kept trying to be good socially without drinking and I got to the point where I was just as good completely sober as I was when I was drinking.

And you know what? Now, when I drink I find I have to work harder to be good socially. I’m much better now when I’m completely sober. And the most amazing thing is this – even though I’m not drinking a drop of alcohol I still can’t remember what I talk about the next day, just like when I was drinking.

It had nothing to do with alcohol. So there is a conversational “state” that I get into that has nothing to do with alcohol. It used to be when I was drinking, now it’s when I’m sober. It’s much better now that I’m not drinking though. I encourage other people to do the same type of experimentation.