So I mentioned in a previous post that there was an activist flame lit in me. I thought media stereotypes were holding me back. I thought that if the media were to portray Asian men in a favorable light, I would have an easier time of it. I thought that if other Asian men were successful with women, I could ride the wave of their success.
What a crock of shit. Really, think about it. If media stereotypes mattered, what about white guys? I know way more white guys who are hopeless with women than Asian guys. When you are a real live, flesh and blood man standing in front of a woman, all those stereotypes go out the window. All that matters is the connection, the energy between two people.
I came to the conclusion that any dating difficulties that Asian American men face lies far more within our own heads than it does in the media. I also concluded that the very nature of protest is emasculating. You are basically conceding your power and complaining. You gain more power by taking control of your destiny, and saying “all that noise out there is bullshit static. I am a effin’ force of nature and nothing can stand in my way.”
I tried to post these thoughts on an Asian American discussion board a while back and oooh boy, the shit I caught from all the other posters was deafening. They called me a sellout, a white person in disguise. One guy said that the only white people he allows himself to be friends with are the ones who acknowledge the plight and the victim status of Asians in America. I was thinking, are f#@$’n kidding me? btw – Asian American messageboards are just filled with poisonous, disempowering thought. I dunno, I’m just generalizing but if there are healthy ones out there I haven’t seen them.
And it turns out I’m not alone. Check out this guy – he basically says the same thing I’ve been saying for years.
Edit: Welcome Fighting 44 readers! I see I’ve been linked there and there’s been a spike in traffic. Just for the record, I was not talking about the Fighting 44s in this blog post. I think I’ve been to the Fight 44s a couple of times, maybe even posted there. You have some interesting articles but I tend to stay away from the boards. Nothing personal, it’s just based on principle.
I was specifically talking about the A Magazine boards. That’s where I got the hostile feedback, years ago. Ever since then, I’ve stayed away from Asian American activism boards. A brief glimpse at Model Minority just reaffirmed by stance.
I should take a look at Fighting 44s. Maybe it’s completely different now.
